Fed up with the modern Western dating game?

Discover why more men are packing their bags and seeking romance overseas as “Passport Bros.”

Some people travel for freedom and the wanderlust it entails.

Others prioritize novelty or just to escape the 9–5 rat race. And then there are the folks who prioritize dating abroad.

Those are called “passport bros.”

Origin and History of the Term

The meaning of Passport Bros has its roots in the growing community of avid male travelers who have made exploring the world a central part of their lifestyle. It is a distinct subculture of men who are dissatisfied with dating opportunities in western countries due to dramatic changes on the dating market, with 60% of men being single and sexless (Psychology Today)

Essentially, men are walking away from the modern dating landscape.

It seems to them that women still screen men based on the same criteria as they always have, but with comically high standards.

Attributes such as height and physical attributes, status and the ability to provide, but at the same time, they refuse to bring to the table what men naturally screen for, like femininity, traditional female behavior like modesty and humility, and most importantly, a desire to follow the masculine lead.

That shouldn't be surprising given that a central part of the liberal agenda is redefining and ridiculing "being masculine" itself.

Instead, women are increasingly competing with men in the workplace and in traditionally male roles, with certain behaviors tolerated or even applauded, as seen in family courtrooms, where 80% of divorces are initiated by women, and the rise of OnlyFans models and TikTok trends that shame men in gyms simply for existing.

And then there is the constant vocal male bashing, aka “I don’t need a man.” Most of us are so used to it that we don’t even react any more but make no mistake, it does have an impact.

So, isn’t it just a rational decision for men to go where they are needed and, most importantly, wanted?

She puts it that way:

@_victoria_lit

Passport bros are thriving. #foryoupage #explore

Controversy Surrounding the Movement

The Passport Bros. movement has sparked heated debate, with many critics claiming it is inherently misogynistic.

Critics argue that the movement fosters negative stereotypes about women and promotes the objectification of women from diverse cultures. They argue that Passport Bros. is simply exploiting women from economically disadvantaged areas in a predatory manner, but it is unsurprising that these arguments come from the same people who believe that masculinity is inherently toxic rather than viewing men as rational human beings seeking to live a happy life and to fulfill a purpose.

I really got curious and I started to ask men on the streets of Manila. But don’t take my words for granted.

Let me share that interview here so you can make up your own mind:

You can feel strongly about the fact that some men only visit these countries as sex tourists because that's the only way they can satisfy their sexual needs. However, this doesn't really have anything to do with the phenomenon because this kind of behavior happens everywhere, and no one is denying that men also behave badly.

The novelty isn’t that men seek sex elsewhere.

It is that young, successful men who have all the opportunities and their lives ahead choose to date abroad because they seek women they can and want to actually commit to and even create a family with and most importantly, because they can, thanks to a plethora of new remote work opportunities and the rise of the internet.

Hypocrisy of Feminism and Its Impact on the Movement

One of the main influences is Rollo Tomassi and his book The Rational Male, who is often referred to as the godfather of the highly demonized Red Pill Movement.

Rollo Tomassi's main beef with feminism and hypergamy centers around what he sees as a pile of hypocrisies that, in his view, weaken the whole movement:

Empowerment vs. Dependency: Feminism shouts empowerment from the rooftops but then turns around and promotes hypergamy, where women chase after higher-status partners, leading to a kind of dependency on men.

The perfect example here is the “sprinkle sprinkle” TikTok trend, which, in a nutshell, just encourages women to use men as personal ATMs and feel no shame about it.

That triggered a hilarious trend called drizzling drizzle in response.

@taylorloversclub

#drizzledrizzle #teach #coach #women #feminine

Unrealistic Expectations: Feminism pushes for gender equality while ignoring biological differences, leading to some pretty unrealistic expectations. Think of women effortlessly juggling high-powered careers and family life without any support.

We can just look at the birth replacement rates in the west and the crime statistics of kids who have been raised in single-mother households to judge how that has worked out for society as a whole so far.

Double Standards: Feminism loves double standards. Behaviors praised in women are often condemned in men.

A woman being assertive and career-driven is seen as awesome (aka Boss Girl), but a man showing the same traits is labeled as chauvenistic, aggressive or a jerk.

For a woman, it is perfectly fine to have high standards and a laundry list of preferences about income, height, and how a man ought to behave, but when a man is honest and says that he likes to date younger women who aren’t promiscuous, that is somehow problematic and “predatory behavior.”

Selective Victimhood: Feminist narratives focus heavily on female oppression while often ignoring or downplaying men's issues, like high male suicide rates or the lack of support for men abused by family courts.

I particularly loved this brilliant piece, and no, it is not a joke: Office Aircon Is Sexist to Women, Study Finds 🤭

What is the conclusion and why is this important for young men?

The harsh truth is that dating has become much more transactional and adversarial.

Ironically, this lifestyle is a big middle finger to these Western societal dynamics, with guys saying, "We're the prize, not you," and taking their attention elsewhere.

It's kind of ironic, really. With apps like Instagram, Tinder, and others, the internet has made dating easy for women by putting an emphasis on looks. But now, globalization and the digital age are flipping the script because, let’s be honest, most men are way more used to being on their own anyway.

Regardless of what you think of this, its fair to say that in order to respect others, we first have to respect ourselves, and self-love and the ability to say “no thanks” play an essential part of exactly that.

What do you think about this trend? Let me know in the comments.

Thanks for reading and have a great day!

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